I recently paid a considerable sum of money to be coached through a persistent block and I thought it might be useful to share why and how, these days, I make a decision to spend a sizeable sum.
I’m a voracious learner, always curious to know more about things. As a result I’ve spent many thousands of pounds learning in one form or another. What I’ve come to realise, a bit late in the game, is that just chasing information might impact my level of knowledge and intellectual understanding, but that’s not where a good return on investment lies. If it’s not going to translate into measurable results, in the ‘real’ world rather than just in my head, was it really worth the money I expended? The money’s gone but without receiving the right value back.
There’s a difference between knowing something, and breathing life into that knowledge, so that it becomes an embodied basis for living into a more expanded version of our authentic selves.
If a child loves learning how things work and and is always making things, then nurturing and developing those natural tendencies with consciously chosen education pathways, will allow them to bring their innate skills, talents and interests to the market place in ways that support both the individual and society. And it will be much easier, more fun and way less stressful for the child to build on their already primed platform.
It’s not so different adults, though as adults of our time, we may have been heading down conditioned, alien roads for some considerable time. So these days before digging deep, I ask myself this question:
What do I think this book, training or program will give me, that I don’t already have? And how specifically is that going to nurture me in getting what I want?
It boils down to this: I don’t spend on myself anymore, I invest in myself. What’s the difference? I make sure that the return I’m going to get is worth more to me than the money would be if I’d not made the purchase. Another great way to check this is to consider:
How much of my energy and comfort am I willing to put into this product or project in order to get the return or results I’m looking for?
If it’s £10 worth of energy, that’s not a lot of effort and it’s not going to be a very big deal if I don’t get the return (results) I’m looking for. But if it’s £5000, I’m going to have to show up a whole lot more present, in action and accountable in making sure I receive that value.
So, if shiny object syndrome is something that dogs you, or if you just have a spending habit you’d like to get a handle on, next time you’re tempted, consider whether your long term yield is more desirable that the sacrifice, and how will you ensure that’s the case.